Look around your space right now. Your desk. Your closet. That drawer you never open.
How much of what you see is useful to you today?
Most of us are holding onto things “just in case.” The exercise bike that became a clothes rack. The gadget that seemed brilliant in the store. The books you’ll get to someday. We know this stuff isn’t serving us — but we keep it anyway.
That low-grade accumulation has a real cost. And it’s not just about physical space.
Read MoreSome of the most stressed, overworked leaders I've ever met aren't struggling because of their workload. They're drowning because of something far more invisible — and far more exhausting.
Every decision they make runs through a filter. Before they send the email, before they make the call, before they set the direction — there's a quiet, relentless question running in the background: What will people think of me?
If that’s you, it’s costing you more than you realize. It's costing you clarity. It's costing you speed. And most of all, it's costing you your confidence as a leader.
Read MoreThere's a meeting that happens in almost every organization, in some form or another. Someone brings up a decision that was supposedly made three weeks ago. A few people look confused. Someone else says they thought it was still being discussed. The original decision-maker — if there even was one — goes quiet.
Sound familiar?
This isn't a communication problem. It isn't a culture problem. It's a structural problem, and it has a very specific cause: nobody was ever clearly named as the person who owned the decision.
Read MoreIf you lead people, there’s a good chance you’ve had this experience:
You start your day with good energy. Your mind feels clear. You’re making smart calls, moving things forward, and communicating with confidence.
But by mid-afternoon?
Every question feels heavier.
Every choice takes longer.
In the ever-evolving leadership landscape, emotional intelligence has emerged as a critical trait distinguishing exceptional leaders. Beyond traditional leadership skills, the ability to understand and manage one’s emotions, as well as effectively navigate the feelings of others, plays a pivotal role in creating a positive and productive work environment. This article explores why leaders need to develop their emotional intelligence, focusing on empathy, active listening and understanding emotions in effective leadership.
Read MoreIn my last article, I shared numerous examples of indecisiveness and where it affects us. While overcoming indecisiveness can be challenging, with consistent effort and the right strategies, you can learn to make decisions more confidently.
Clarify Your Values and Priorities: When you're clear about what matters most to you, it becomes easier to make decisions that align with your values. Take some time to reflect on your goals, values, and long-term priorities.
Sarah had always been passionate about two things: writing and healthcare. She had a talent for crafting compelling stories, but she also had a deep interest in helping others through healthcare. After high school, she found herself torn between pursuing a degree in journalism or nursing. She spent years going back and forth, unable to decide.
In the end, she tried to combine her interests by becoming a health journalist. However, her indecisiveness had caused her to miss out on valuable learning opportunities, and she always wondered what might have happened if she had fully committed to either path. She struggled to establish herself as a writer in the competitive world of journalism and couldn't shake the feeling that she had squandered her potential.
Read MoreWe rely heavily on our brains to help us get more done. According to research, we do it way too much. We rely on our brains constantly to remember a litany of tasks on our mental to-do lists and to help us prioritize the list so we can and take the right action.
The problem is that our brains burn through much energy and attention trying to hold on to ideas, tasks, etc. that it doesn’t want to forget. It’s called the Zeigarnik effect. Think of it as a reminder system built into our minds that keeps pinging us when we know that there are things that we need to do and can’t forget about.
Read MoreRecently, I was out driving on the highway during a rain storm. I signaled right and started to switch lanes. The problem was that, due to low visibility, I failed to see a van that was moving into the same space. It’s tail swiped the front side of my car.
For the next few days, I drove around with increased hesitation. Before turning, I would double and triple check. My driving speeds were down a few miles. In general, I was more cautious. After a while, however, I was back to my New York driver self, navigating the streets with (semi) reckless abandon.
It’s common for people who experience a setback to be more cautious the next time. The problem is, many folks will often view a single failure as an indictment on past efforts and not try again. For example, they make a large number of sales calls that don’t convert. Or they produce a product, service or program that they believe will sell and get almost no response. So, they quickly throw in the towel and give up.
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