At the heart of great leadership is influence, as in the ability to influence others to do what needs to get done.
In a piece written for Forbes, Kevin Kruse defines leadership as “a process of social influence, which maximizes the efforts of others, towards the achievement of a goal.” I like his approach because it factors in some important primary leadership elements: (social) influence, others, effort optimization and goals.
Leadership is about influencing others, rather than demanding and coercing. It speaks to the ability to win people over to a new way of thinking and practice, through idea sharing, collaboration and role modeling. It emphasizes persuasion and motivation over coercion.
Influence occurs primarily through emotional connections, such as when we share triumphant or challenging times together. It also develops when leaders routinely demonstrate feelings of appreciation, care, concern, and empathy.Read More
As a coach, it is relatively common to be contacted by individuals who feel stuck. Often, these people are mid-late career and struggle in their current position.
Their challenges often include, but are not limited to:
Long, grueling workdays
Lack of passion for their work
Managers who mistreat them
Working in industries, such as tight-knit community businesses, in which “everyone knows everyone”, limiting their ability to make lateral career moves
Ironically, when we unpack their situations and identify pathways forward, they are often unprepared or unwilling to take the kind of action necessary to break free.Read More
Recently, I was out driving on the highway during a rain storm. I signaled right and started to switch lanes. The problem was that, due to low visibility, I failed to see a van that was moving into the same space. It’s tail swiped the front side of my car.
For the next few days, I drove around with increased hesitation. Before turning, I would double and triple check. My driving speeds were down a few miles. In general, I was more cautious. After a while, however, I was back to my New York driver self, navigating the streets with (semi) reckless abandon.
It’s common for people who experience a setback to be more cautious the next time. The problem is, many folks will often view a single failure as an indictment on past efforts and not try again. For example, they make a large number of sales calls that don’t convert. Or they produce a product, service or program that they believe will sell and get almost no response. So, they quickly throw in the towel and give up.Read More
Mondays can be challenging. As the first day back to work, it requires us to leave behind our relaxing weekends and jump back into the grind. Making matters worse, we have to reestablish routines that got interrupted by the relative serenity of Saturday and Sunday. No wonder some studies find Monday to be the second least productive day of the work week, after Friday.
Legal holidays present similar challenges. With a few right around the corner, it would be wise for us to review some ways to jump back into work feet first and get more done.
Since R+R is often associated with a weekend’s gift of “rest and relaxation”, let’s use R+S to connote Monday’s “return and success”.Read More
- Do you feel that your time at work is not as well spent as it needs to be?
- Are you a busy entrepreneur or team leader who seeks to accomplish a great deal despite being understaffed and overstretched?
- Do you have a sense of what you can achieve or become that you can’t seem to actualize?
If you answered “yes” to one or more of the above, then you may need to look more carefully at your goal-setting practices.
Goal setting is a critical component of any growth process, personal or professional. There are many benefits of setting goals, including…
- Clarity and Focus – Goals motivate us to cut through the weeds and get focused on what’s really important.
- Planning – Goals help us map out the necessary steps to achieve our desired result.
- Accountability – Goals force us to set and meet deadlines and be accountable to others.
- Transparency – When shared, goals help others understand what we’re focused on.
- Self-esteem – Goals raise our self-confidence as we see ourselves grow and progress.
The challenge I want to talk about today is something called getting stuck.
Many of us feel it, in our personal lives, in our relationships and of course at work in business.
We think we're capable of doing more. We want to build our businesses, build our relationships, get so much more out of life.
But we just don't seem to know what to do. Many times, as a result, we do nothing.Read More